Caring for our own at death
A final gift of love

By Barbra Cohn

Four years ago, seven-year-old Alison Sanders and her father and two brothers were involved in a low-impact automobile collision. Although no one else was injured, Alison was left brain-dead when the passenger-side air bag deployed in her face. Alison’s mother, Beth, and a few close friends, lovingly washed and dressed her body. In accordance with the hospital’s regulations, Beth hired a mortuary to transport Alison’s body to her home, where she rested Alison on her bed among her toys, stuffed animals, silk and flowers. Then, Beth welcomed hundreds of friends and relatives—including children—to say good-bye to Alison.

An around-the-clock vigil was organized so that someone was with Alison continuously, reading spiritual literature or prayers. Pat Hogan, a close family friend and author of Alison’s Gift: The Song of a Thousand Hearts Opening (NosilA Publishing) says, "It was a simple thing, but it created a strong sense of community and an awareness for Alison. The vigil was designed as a positive flow of love and energy to help Alison’s soul in its transition from the physical earth to a new life in spirit."

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